(From time to time we are going to put some pet hypotheses/considerations/thoughts out for y'all to chew on. Consider these a basket of free mental pretzels one can munch in idle moments.)
Food for thought: What if a traumatized person would actually be more helped by given more responsibility? What if the idea that someone is helpless is actually a root problem and treating someone who already feels hopeless and helpless as....well....hopeless and helpless....actually feeds the sense of loss?
I have a friend (an artist) who considers it an honour to work with SAS soldiers who have seen active service and are quite traumatised from it. He honestly, deeply believes that a significant part of the effects of the trauma come from these highly skilled soldiers being side lined now. Their lives were full of purpose and duty, high adrenalin and difficulty, and now much of that intensity has been taken away. When he told me this, it reminded me (with total respect!) of a well known phenomena in performance animals (such as racehorses) that was taught in my Veterinary training: these horses live the high life, full of intensity and athletic training. At the end of their racing careers, the mares are turned out in the paddock to a totally different life, and expected to become instantaneous (relatively speaking) brood mares. My veterinary lecturer (an equine reproductive specialist) basically said "And we wonder why they have fertility issues!".
ReplyDeleteAlso, speaking as one who has had my own recovering to do - nothing brought me humbly to tears more than the Lord allowing me, broken and useless as I thought I was, to touch the life and of someone else who was struggling with the same lies I was - to share the truth that the Lord was still teaching me, with them.