You know what it's like to be a genius, but do you know how to be capable? Many of us don't.
Due to our exquisitely tuned minds, we might find ourselves struggling
with perceptions and experiences that others can't begin to comprehend. We keep our eyes out for that one person who might possibly understand even a
portion of what we feel. We seek someone
who enjoys thinking for its own sake. We want a buddy who knows the pure rush, the high, we get when we work a math problem or solve a conundrum. We want to talk to someone who knows that our brains will eat themselves if we don't give them something to chew on.
While so many people seem to love
the simple, we crave the complex—in fact, for some of us the simple is actually
beyond our comprehension—like trying to analyse the exact muscle fibers we use
while walking.
We sometimes feel great superiority above the crowd of
“normals”, yet sometimes we long to be with them, wishing we could move in
social circles as easily as others. We
either decide to eschew society in a fit of superior resentment, stewing in our
own haughtiness and pain for the rest of our lives, or we consistently put
ourselves out there, raw and bleeding, and feel each rejection as a personal reflection on us.
We have so many answers.
We often know the best ways to make stuff happen, to solve
problems, but find it increasingly difficult to get our ideas accepted. It is actually awesome for us, sometimes,
when people say “Honestly, I have no idea what you are talking about.” with a
deeply apologetic smile, and we bristle when people ignore or scoff at our
thoughts.
We have so many questions that people cannot answer for us or that we don't want to ask. It would be nice to have someone say “Here, this is what you are feeling and
why. This is how you solve this problem. This is your purpose in life. This is your great gift, and this is not your
strong suit. This is how to find peace
in your mind and in your circumstances.”.
Our difficulty lies, though, in the fact that we have questions about
ourselves that we think (often rightly) that no one can begin to comprehend.
A marathon runner can't go to a 5th grader at recess and say
“Hey, I find that on mile 14, I start to hit the wall. What is the best way for me to manage that
break in focus?” or “How can I manage both a stress fracture and plantar
fasciitis in the same foot?”. It is not
that the 5th grader is not a fine young runner, but he just has not
experienced the same amount of running as the marathoner has.
Yet sometimes that 5th grader in our lives knows
the exact right answer to help us, but we are too proud or too superior to
follow his advice. We forget that there
is a difference between intelligence and wisdom. Intelligence is an innate quality—barring any
accidents, illnesses, or other problems, a person will stay at approximately
the same intellectual stratum that they were born with. However, wisdom is open to all, regardless of
the Weschler score.
That 5th
grader might know exactly how to break through a mental block, or might sagely
say “You have to let the bone heal. It’s
ok to stop running for a little while.”.
However, we might scoff at such advice from someone who isn't
in the same league as we are, then find that that stress fracture becomes a permanent
source of pain and we can never quite overcome that emotional wall that keeps
us from developing past mile 14.
This blog is here to guide you through many of the pitfalls
that we Outliers encounter. We will learn
the difference between intelligence and wisdom, assertion and arrogance,
friendliness and fawning, introspection and “navel staring”, introversion and
resentment. We will learn how to manage
our emotional, intellectual, physical, and spiritual lives to become the most
we were made to be.
Note: We use the
term genius because that is what we are.
It is not a term of worth or value as a human, it is a descriptor of
innate cognitive ability. A fast runner is a fast
runner, even if he also is a bank robber or beats his wife. Therefore there is no need to blush and hide
from accepting the fact that we have been given, through no action or striving
on our part, a fast mind.
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